Coaching in Times of Personal Transition
Transitions are times when our being and our spirit are bought heavily into question.
We feel lost and disoriented and the things that used to satisfy us lose their flavour
and become dull. We have come to a watershed and stand before ourselves asking
for a different experience to the one we have created so far.
These are the wake up call moments when we have pledged to ourselves in the late
hours of the early morning after another night of broken sleep that we will enact
change in our live and our relationships. We seek to find another way, a different and
more nurturing way than the one we have been living.
We prod ourselves and seek answers as we move through the stages of transition.
We question our personal motivation, we need more of what has heart and meaning
for us and less of what is before us on a daily basis. We shake in our shoes because
we know it is up to us to create a new and better reality. It’s exciting and it’s
terrifying all at the same time. We want to jump into the void shouting out that we
are free and at the same time we want to know there is a safety net there to catch us
as we freefall into the future.
These are challenging time when we are asked to go within and question our very
reason for living.
These are the times when we make big, bold steps towards an unknown future.
This is when we decide to trust the mystery of life and move forward in a new way
letting ourselves be taken and directed by our inner knowing.
Transitions are “wake-up calls” that develop our inner resources and stimulate us to
grow beyond what we know.
Transitions, which almost always begin as personal downsizing, soon produce
renewal, resilience, energy, passion, and purpose, which become the foundation of
the next chapter of our lives.
Most clients, when they arrive for coaching, are already in a “transition,” that is they
are moving from one stage of being to another. They are questioning the old and
asking for the new.
They begin by shedding many negative and limiting beliefs about who they thought
they were and what their life was for, as they begin to reassess their purpose and life
This unravelling and letting go of what they thought they knew requires some
grieving of the past. Once this is done and the past is acknowledged, honoured and
integrated, clients begin the process of eventually taking on, exploring, discovering
and living their next life chapter.
Transitions have relatively predictable sequences from:
1. Feeling lost and disoriented,
2. To feeling liberated and whole,
3. To engaging intensely in new learning, creative endeavours, and networking,
4. To feeling ready to begin a new life/career chapter.